Couples Who Do These 12 Things Are Slowly Destroying Their Love
Every couple wants to last long and have a healthy, loving relationship. However, maintaining a relationship can be challenging when you don’t know how to give it justice, and the next thing you know, you’re sitting in a destroyed relationship with no idea how to proceed. Well, if you’re looking to avoid any calamities, then all you need to do is avoid these destructive habits.
Blame Each Other During Conflicts
A conflict is bad enough for a relationship, but bringing blame into it makes it worse. If you and your partner are quick to shift blame and point fingers at each other, you’ll never be able to forgive each other and move on to a healthier relationship. Blame postpones resolution and keeps you and your partner at each other’s throats, which cannot have a good outcome.
Dismiss Each Other’s Feelings
Every couple seeks validation from each other. Not validating your partner’s feelings will make them feel dismissed and unwanted. Validation encourages your partner to seek more support from you and builds trust and hope; if you’re quickly dismissing each other’s feelings, you’re actively keeping your relationship from thriving.
Constantly Criticize
Being criticized is never a good feeling, but it’s heartbreaking if it comes from the one person you want to trust and love. Constantly criticizing your partner’s efforts and love makes them feel like they don’t deserve love and appreciation. It breaks their heart and discourages them from setting healthy expectations for the relationship, directly leading to a potential breakup.
Keep Secrets
We’ve all got our secrets, and some, like past traumatic experiences, genuinely are not meant to be shared. But if you’re holding things back from your partner, you’re not setting a good example. Not only are you actively preventing your partner from being able to trust you completely, but you’re also implying that you don’t trust your partner enough to share something important with them.
Use The Silent Treatment
Expecting your partner to read your mind is never a good strategy. Even if you believe your partner knows you enough to figure out how to react, using the silent treatment is not going to set a healthy pace for your relationship. Besides, it’s incredibly frustrating for people always to have to guess what their partner wants; it’s simpler and more effective to communicate openly.
Mock Or Belittle
Mocking and belittling are the habits of a bully. If you mock and criticize your partner or vice versa, you’re actively contributing to a toxic and negative relationship dynamic. Another reason mocking or belittling each other isn’t in your favor is that such actions and behaviors should never come from a trusted and loved person; if you’re not your partner’s safe space, who will be?
Take Each Other For Granted
We all make efforts and sacrifices in a relationship, even if they’re minor. You might not think your partner’s efforts are worth praising, but they deserve appreciation, even if they’re something as menial as taking out the trash. Taking each other for granted starts to chip away at the love you have; it makes you think your partner and you aren’t on equal footing, and you begin to lose them without realizing it.
Argue In Front Of Others
Never air your dirty laundry. While we wouldn’t recommend arguing frequently, if you know something is coming up, never address it in front of your partner’s friends, colleagues, and loved ones. Arguing in front of others puts you in a bad light, paints you negatively, and can ironically lead to more arguments because you weren’t able to keep things private.
Compare Your Partner To Others
Comparing your partner to others directly implies you don’t find them enough. Whether it’s their work ethic, cooking skills (or lack thereof), or the way they handle dates, comparing your partner’s behaviors and actions to others makes them feel insecure and unwanted. It also implies you’re seeking validation from the dynamics of someone else’s relationship, which can be destructive for your own.
Neglect Physical Intimacy
Physical intimacy is one of a relationship’s biggest, if not core, pillars. Holding hands, kissing, hugs, and other forms of PDA are indicators of a good and healthy relationship. Intimacy in the bedroom is also important as long as you and your partner are on the same page. If you’re neglecting either without any valid reason, you’re depriving your partner of love and appreciation.
Refuse To Compromise
We’ve all compromised in our relationships, but more often than not, only one partner is pulling the load. If your partner is always the one making sacrifices and compromising for your sake, you’re gradually putting them under a lot of pressure. Not only will they wear out sometime in the future, but they will emotionally withdraw from you and check out the relationship.
Stay In The Past
We get it; sometimes, the past is too enticing or depressing to give up. But you should never let the past hold you back from the future. If you’re lamenting over the past relationship dynamics or focusing too much on what you’ve lost, you’ll unconsciously lose sight of what’s in front of you. It’s better to forgive, move on, and treat the past as what it is instead of what it could have been.
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This article was first published at Rbitaliablog.
