12 Ways to Know If Someone Is Genuine in Their Intentions
Sometimes, we’re so traumatized by past experiences that we find it hard to trust others. Even when they’ve got their hearts on a sleeve, we feel suspicious and question their every intent. We also torment ourselves regularly, wondering if someone’s intentions are genuine or if there’s something much bigger at bay. While these ways aren’t 100% accurate, they’re pretty much tell-tale signs of knowing how genuine someone’s intentions are.
They Follow Through On Promises
Promises are meant to be kept, yet many people still need to break them. If someone is always following through on their promises to you, it means they value your companionship and do not want to upset you. Even if it’s something minor like promising to call you, following through means they have genuine intentions and never want to disappoint you.
They Share Their Time Freely
A person who has genuine intentions for you will always prioritize your company. Even if they’re dealing with a complex work schedule, giving you a call or taking the time to spend a few hours with you is a big gesture and shows that they care about you. If a person isn’t sharing their time even though they’ve got plenty on their hands, you know they don’t appreciate your company.
They Actively Listen
There’s a big difference between hearing someone speak and actively listening to them. Someone who cares about you and has genuine intentions for you won’t forget the small details in your conversations. They’ll remember things like your favorite color, your favorite food, and even the name of your favorite singer. Remembering such small details means they’re actively listening to you and are paying enough attention to retain information.
They Speak Kindly About Others
Sometimes, it’s not a person’s behavior toward you that reveals their intentions but their behavior towards others, especially behind their back. If someone is openly kind about others, even in their absence, you know they’re too kind to mask their intentions. Such people don’t have the heart to hurt others so that they won’t hurt you.
They Celebrate Your Achievements
A person who goes out of their way to celebrate your achievement is a true friend. People don’t generally celebrate the achievements and milestones of someone they dislike, so you know how genuine someone is by their behavior and reaction to your accomplishments. It’s even better if they’re the ones actively celebrating your achievements because it shows they genuinely care for you.
They Respect Your Boundaries
One of the biggest indicators of disrespect is breaking boundaries. People who don’t have genuine intentions for you won’t hesitate to cross boundaries because they won’t think your boundaries are significant enough. On the other hand, if someone is always respectful of your boundaries and apologizes if they accidentally cross them, you know they’re genuine.
They Support You In Tough Times
Hardship reveals true friends. If people make excuses and try to refrain from helping you during tough times, they’re not supportive and secretly harboring ill intentions. On the other hand, if someone is always there for you, even on occasions where support might have seemed impossible, you know they’re going the extra mile just for you.
They Offer Constructive Criticism
People with ill intentions will always jump at the chance to humiliate and criticize you. They might mask their criticism as honesty and bluntness, but they’re secretly reveling in your pain. However, those who offer constructive criticism– helping you overcome weaknesses instead of just pointing them out– are doing so because they genuinely care about you.
They Apologize When Necessary
We all make mistakes, but not all of us apologize and try to rectify the situation. If they treat their mistakes as a slip-up and don’t try to make amends, they don’t care about others. If someone you know apologizes as soon as they realize they’ve made a mistake or hurt you, it shows they care enough about you to make up.
They Encourage Your Growth
People who don’t have genuine intentions for us don’t really want us to succeed. Such people will discourage us from seeking prosperous opportunities like a new job, changing cities, or a mortgage because they’ll be secretly jealous. However, those who encourage you to pursue success and growth genuinely support you, even if it takes you away from them.
They Are Consistent
A genuine person never falters. They’ll always deliver on what they promised and will ensure they keep up with their support. Even if something prevents them from being supportive, they’ll openly explain their absence and try to make up with you. On the other hand, inconsistency is a sign of insincerity because people won’t care enough to follow through.
They Avoid Manipulative Behaviors
Lastly, anyone who avoids manipulative behaviors like stretching the truth or gaslighting you have genuine intentions. Insincere people are often manipulative. They twist the truth and try to contort things in their favor, even if it directly impacts your success. Avoiding manipulative behaviors means they don’t want to hurt you because they care about you.
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This article was first published at Rbitaliablog.
