16 Signs You’re Not Being the Best Husband (And How to Improve)

Marriage takes a lot of effort, understanding, and love. Being a good husband isn’t always easy; sometimes, we may not realize when we’re not doing enough. If you’re wondering if you’re doing your best, it’s a good idea to take a closer look. Here are some signs that might show you’re not the husband you want to be. By noticing these signs, you can make changes, improve your relationship, and grow closer to your wife.

You Don’t Communicate Effectively

Communication is key; if you don’t effectively communicate your wants and needs, you will create an absence of understanding. Keeping your thoughts to yourself or expecting your spouse to understand what you want without conveying it leads to misunderstandings.

You Disregard Her Opinions

You should never disregard your spouse’s feelings and opinions, even if they are inaccurate. Regularly dismissing your spouse’s opinions can make them feel undervalued and insecure, and it can also lead to feelings of disrespect, which can negatively affect a marriage.

You Are Financially Irresponsible

Being financially irresponsible is one of the biggest and most common reasons marriages break apart. Spouses who make poor financial choices or struggle to be transparent about their financial standings can stress out their partner and cause trust issues. If you constantly make bad financial decisions, you burden your spouse massively.

You Don’t Make Time For Her

Most of us work until we tire ourselves out, but no extracurricular or primary activity should take over the time dedicated to your spouse. If you’re consistently prioritizing other tasks and not finding the time to hang out with your spouse, they’ll feel like an afterthought in their marriage.

You Ignore Her Needs

We all have needs, be they physical, emotional, or mental. If you’re too focused on other things and ignoring your spouse’s needs, you’re creating an unequal relationship in which one spouse is consistently undervalued. A lack of understanding and respect for spousal needs can create a divide between the two of you.

You Hold Grudges

Although it’s understandable to hold on to a sure hurtful thing your spouse might have done in the past if you’re constantly holding it over their head, you’re being disrespectful and demeaning. Holding onto past arguments poisons a relationship; it prevents spouses from moving forward from arguments.

You Don’t Support Her Goals

If you’re unsupportive of your spouse’s personal/professional ambitions, start a side business, take over some chores, or accomplish a menial task, you create an unappreciative environment. Your spouse will feel like they don’t matter to you, causing isolation, mental stress, and a lack of love.

You Use Silence As A Weapon

We all have our ways of processing emotions and events, but if you weaponize silence to hurt your spouse, you’ll only dig your marriage into a deeper hole. Giving your spouse the silent treatment instead of a healthy discourse not only affects communication but also creates misunderstandings.

You Compare Her To Others

One of the worst feelings is your spouse comparing you to someone else. If you’re putting down your spouse by drawing comparisons to people you know (or even celebrities), you’re directly isolating parts of their identity to match your ideals. You’ll create insecurities and damage their self-worth.

You Focus Only On The Negative

If you’re quick to notice your spouse’s negative aspects (unfavorable characteristics and habits, common mistakes, etc.), you’re actively creating a negative environment that will only lead to destruction. Such an attitude will cause resentment, insecurities, and personal discouragement.

You Are Dismissive

While you might not think your spouse’s menial opinions might hold the truth, they still matter, even if they disagree with yours. Dismissing your spouse’s feelings or thoughts and declaring them unimportant makes them feel unloved, disrespected, and incapable of making sound opinions.

You Don’t Celebrate Her Achievements

We all want our achievements to be celebrated, whether they’re significant, such as a promotion or a big payout, or menial, like a successful birthday party. Celebrating achievement harbors love and understanding, but consistently ignoring your spouse’s achievements portrays the opposite.

You Take Her For Granted

It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget to show your wife just how much she means to you. If you’re not regularly acknowledging the little and big things she does, she’s likely feeling overlooked and unappreciated. Even small gestures can remind her that you see and value everything she does.

You Never Apologize

If you can’t bring yourself to admit when you’ve messed up or refuse to say sorry after hurting her, it’s a big deal. It shows you’re not mature enough to own your mistakes and that you’re not respecting her feelings. Apologizing isn’t just about saying the words—it’s about fixing things and moving forward together.

You Don’t Help Her With Any Chores

If you’re leaving all the chores to her, it’s bound to create frustration. Step up and start helping out—don’t wait to be asked. Whether it’s doing the dishes or handling the laundry, showing you’re willing to share the load not only eases her burden but also shows you respect her efforts.

You’re Not Involved in Family Decisions

A marriage only works when both partners put in effort. If either is uninvolved, the weight of marriage may prove too much for one partner. It may make them feel like you are uninterested in family affairs. By simply communicating responsibilities and expectations, you can understand each other better and eventually get involved in decision-making.

More For You

Feeling distant from your partner? It could be due to various stress factors affecting your marriage. Identifying these can help you address the root causes and work towards a stronger relationship.

This article was first published at Rbitaliablog.