Couples Who Do These 12 Things Tend to Face More Fights Than Others
A relationship without arguments is the dream. But it’s much easier to imagine than accomplish because most couples inadvertently end up doing things that directly lead them to fight. If you want you and your partner to stay peaceful and loving, then you’ve come to the right spot. Here are some habits and behaviors that push you and your partner to fight.
Interrupt Each Other Mid-Sentence
Being interrupted when you’re trying to express your thoughts is one of the worst feelings for anyone. But to be interrupted by someone you’re supposed to be cherished and loved by is incredibly frustrating and heartbreaking. Constantly interrupting your partner makes them feel undervalued; you treat them directly as an afterthought, making them feel put down and depressed.
Bring Up Past Mistakes In Arguments
We get it! Sometimes, our partners mess up in ways that make their mistakes challenging to forgive and forget. But if you’ve decided to forgive your partner’s mistakes, it’s time to move on from them, too. If you’re throwing past mistakes into your partner’s face during arguments, you’re directly reminding them of things they’ve moved on and probably rectified. It discourages them and makes them feel unloved.
Avoid Discussing Finances Honestly
Never set foot in a relationship where financial dishonesty thrives. If either of you is hiding financial details, you and your partner risk breaking each other’s trust. Financial honesty is essential because hiding finances and debts can also directly impact your partner’s life and credit score. Discuss debts, loans, mortgages, and any long-held financial commitments before you get serious.
Fail To Set Healthy Boundaries
Most people expect a relationship to be boundaryless. But every relationship, no matter how intimate, has boundaries and should have healthy boundaries. It’s up to you and your partner to discuss the limitations for each other, but once you’ve set healthy boundaries, you’ll find your relationship much more thriving and successful. Failing to set healthy boundaries pivots your relationship to toxic dynamics.
Ignore Each Other’s Opinions
If you and your partner can’t discuss matters with valued opinions from either side, how will you last? Ignoring your partner’s opinions might seem too minor to affect the relationship, but it’s one of the most common factors in breaking up. If your partner feels like you’re not valuing their opinions, they’ll realize you’re not taking them as seriously as you should and will start to resent you.
Rely On Sarcasm
Communication is key to a healthy and successful relationship. And while it’s certainly fun to be sarcastic now and then, if you’re constantly relying on sarcasm, you’re not letting healthy communication enter the relationship. Constant sarcasm puts down your partner. They start thinking they’re always wrong and focus more on their insecurities than strength. This actively prevents either of you from bonding.
Create Unrealistic Expectations
We all want to be the perfect partner and expect the same, but every relationship has its ups and downs. If you expect your partner to be perfect 100% of the time, you’re not allowing them the space and grace to be human. Creating unrealistic expectations like this exhausts your partner, so they emotionally and physically check out from the relationship, even before it runs its course.
Engage In Competitive Behaviors
A relationship built on competition does not last long. If you and your partner are always competing for each other’s love and affection, you’re going to exhaust yourself and run the course of the relationship before you even realize it. Competition isn’t only limited to love. Partners in competitive relationships begin to compete for everything, including promotions and other accomplishments, so they’re never happy for each other.
Criticize In Front Of Others
Criticism is never a good look, but being criticized by your partner in a public setting is humiliating and a valid deal breaker for many. We expect our partners to be the ones who accept us with our flaws and strengths, but if they constantly point out our mistakes, we feel insecure and unloved. To address your partner’s behaviors, offer constructive feedback instead of public criticism.
Ignore The Need For Compromise
We all make sacrifices in a relationship. But if your partner is always the one who’s bending to your will, sacrificing their needs for yours and compromising even when they don’t want to, then you’re not being a good partner. Relationships and compromises are a conflicting duo, but no partner should have to give up their wants and needs all the time. Compromises should be balanced and mutually agreed upon.
Dismiss Apologies
If your partner makes a mistake and apologizes, it shows they’re willing to rectify and meet your expectations. But dismissing their apologies makes them feel unworthy of your love, and they begin to question their intentions. Of course, forgiving isn’t easy and should come when you’re ready to, but if you’re constantly dismissing apologies, you’re contributing to a negative dynamic.
Assume Negative Intentions
Never jump to conclusions. If you’re always suspecting your partner’s intentions, you’re never going to be able to trust them. Assuming they have negative intentions isn’t only directly criticizing and questioning your partner’s character, but they’ll constantly be walking on eggshells because they’ll fear angering you. If you can’t trust your partner, you’ll only put them down.
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Asking your partner the right questions can help you feel closer and understand each other better. These simple yet thoughtful questions can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger connection. It’s a fun way to explore your relationship and discover new things about each other!
This article was first published at Rbitaliablog.
