15 Worst Relationship Tips You Should Never Take Seriously
Have you ever heard dating tips that sounded so ridiculous that it made you laugh? While mind games may be okay among teenagers, there are certain rules you need to follow to appear mature to your date once you reach your twenties. This is why believing every piece of advice out there won’t necessarily bring you closer to finding ‘the one.’ Here are 15 pieces of dating advice you should start ignoring right now.
Note: The content of this article does not reflect the writer’s personal beliefs.
Jealousy Is A Good Sign
Plenty of movies, romantic books, and influencers’ stories suggest that the more your partner is jealous, the better. Jealousy means they care, right? Wrong! Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and lack of trust. We should all stop romanticizing it.
Out of Your League
Nobody is out of your league. This harmful narrative may convince many people that they should not approach the person they like simply because of a random hierarchy established by someone they don’t know. If you like someone, don’t let this nonsense prevent you from declaring your feelings. You will never know if your love is reciprocated if you don’t try.
Following Standards
You may not think this is your case, but have you ever wondered whether standard relationships are truly for you? Maybe you are not into monogamy after all. Or you may have difficulty sharing a house with your partner. Just because everyone else is doing something doesn’t mean you should do the same.
Play Hard To Get
You are no longer a teenager. These silly mind games are no longer for you. If you like someone, be honest with them. Declaring your feelings won’t make you look desperate but rather confident! Who doesn’t like when someone declares their feelings for them?
Be An Enigma
Love requires trust, and trust can only be built on honesty. Sharing is caring, right? How can your partner fall in love with you if they don’t even know you? Instead of being mysterious, be as open with your partner as possible. Never hide your true self or your feelings.
Don’t Go Too Far On The First Date
If a man decides not to date you because you got intimate too quickly for his standards, then he’s simply a hypocrite. You surely don’t want this sort of negativity in your life. There is no set timeline you should follow. Simply do whatever feels right for you at the moment.
Run If He Talks About His Ex
Why do we all have to hate our exes? If we spent years loving someone, they probably were good people. Talking positively about someone we have shared so much time with doesn’t necessarily mean we are still into them. It simply means that we are grateful for the time spent together.
Don’t Go To Bed Angry
Ideally, you want to find an agreement before going to sleep, but guess what? Sometimes it’s just impossible. The more tired you get, the more difficult it will be to find an agreement. When this happens, simply take a break, enjoy a good night of rest, and return to it with new energy the following day.
Opposite Attracts
While this is true to a certain extent, you should remember that you and your partner should share some main values. Yes, you may have a successful relationship with an extrovert, even if you consider yourself an introvert. Still, if your religious and political views are completely opposite, building a fulfilling long-term relationship may be challenging.
If You Love Your Partner, You Cannot Be Attracted To Other People
Unfortunately, loving your partner doesn’t mean you suddenly stop finding other people attractive. While you may experience a general disinterest for others in the first months – sometimes even years – of a relationship, you will start finding other people attractive again after some time. You may even have a crush on a colleague or friend. On these occasions, remember that what you feel now has nothing to do with your love for your partner.
Never Show Your Weakness
Some people think showing vulnerability makes you weak, but it’s actually the opposite. Being open and honest about your feelings helps build deeper connections. Relationships are built on trust and being real with each other. Sharing your fears, struggles, and insecurities can bring you closer, not push your partner away.
Love Is All You Need
Unfortunately, love alone won’t be enough. Why? You need respect, honesty, trust… But this is not all. You also need to share similar goals for the future. If your dream is to get married and have a huge family, while your partner wants to travel the world and remain child-free, it probably won’t work out.
Always Put Your Partner First
It’s natural to want to put your partner first, but if you do it all the time, you might end up forgetting about your own needs. A healthy relationship is all about balance, not sacrificing yourself. If you’re always putting them ahead of you, it’s easy to lose track of your own well-being. Remember, you’ve got to take care of yourself, too—after all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Compromise on Everything
Sure, compromise is part of any relationship, but giving in on everything just isn’t sustainable. Some things are too important to just let go. It’s crucial to stand your ground when it comes to your core values and beliefs. Finding a middle ground is key, but not if it means losing who you are in the process.
Soulmates Exist
With over 8 billion people on the planet, how can you believe there is a single soul mate for you? The reality is that there are plenty of people with whom you may successfully build a relationship. With some, it will be easier; with some, it will be more challenging. Some will be a good match; others will be an awful match.
More For You
These were a few terrible dating advice you probably heard at least once that we strongly advise you to ignore. But what are some good tips you should implement in your dating game? And one of them is traveling together around the world. Whether it’s an all-adult cruise or a date at a rooftop bar, spending time together doing the things you love can strengthen your relationship.
This article was first published on the RB ITALIA Blog.
