16 Reactions from Friends and Family That Might Surprise You After a Divorce

Every married couple wants to make it work, but sometimes, things don’t go in your favor. You think getting divorced is the end of the world, and you believe people will admonish you when it finally happens. But surprisingly, not all reactions are negative—some may actually surprise or even comfort you. While it’s a tough chapter, it often brings unexpected moments that help you move forward.

“Are We Celebrating Or Mourning?”

Hearing this is undoubtedly surprising because when someone gets divorced, they’re still trying to figure out whether their divorce was good. Even if the divorce happens after a particularly painful marriage, a person frequently experiences bouts of guilt, sorrow, anger, and happiness, so people don’t know how to react.

“How Do You Feel About It?”

It might sound surprising, but this is one of the least common responses. Most people won’t question if the divorce hurt you; half want to avoid opening up old wounds, which doesn’t even occur to the rest. Ultimately, anyone who asks how you feel about it genuinely cares for you.

“Do You Want To Grab A Beer?”

This response can go two ways. Either the person is trying to cheer you up with a couple of drinks, or they’re finally seeing you single and want to shoot their shot. Depending on what they imply, the response can be taken lightly or awkwardly. But either way, it’s something you’d appreciate.

“I Don’t Know What To Say”

People in shock react unusually, so they’ll directly inform you how they feel. This can even happen with close friends who didn’t know you were going through a divorce and are surprised it’s happening. It’s good if this is their response since they won’t hurt you with exaggerated reactions.

“It’s About Time; They’re A Horrible Person”

People who got divorced because they were in an abusive or horrible marriage will get this response frequently, especially if their friends and family members disliked their ex-spouse. Hearing this is a relief because you’re still trying to adjust to the divorce and are afraid of getting backlash, so knowing your friends/family support you is heartening.

“I’m Sorry To Hear That, Or Congratulations…”

If a divorce is really private and you don’t get time to spread the word, this might be the most common response you’ll get. People will blurt out a congratulatory message and then follow up with an apology or vice versa because they don’t know how to react and don’t want to offend you with their words.

“I Never Liked Them Anyway”

If your divorce comes as a surprise to you, such a statement will confuse you. Sometimes, the people around us can pick up on cues and things about our partners long before we do. More often than not, the same people will avoid intruding on personal matters but will be relieved when you share news about your divorce.

“The Mission Isn’t Over Yet. Stay Focused”

Honestly, you’ll probably only get this response from other divorcees. This is because no matter how much your friends and family support you, they won’t understand the anguish, turmoil, and exhaustion behind getting a divorce compared to someone who’s been through it. And it’s best if you take these words seriously; they come from a loving place.

“I Don’t Really Care”

You’d be surprised at how many friends will say this. This usually happens with friends you made through your ex-spouse or other mutuals who don’t really want to pick a side and want to continue hanging out without having to talk about the divorce every few minutes. Don’t take this as a sign of apathy.

“What Happened?”

If your divorce is a surprise, many friends and family will inquire about the truth. But, sometimes, you’ll even meet random acquaintances or neighbors asking this question. It might come from a place of concern and love, but many people can be nosey, so they’ll still ask.

“Good For You, Enjoy Life”

Hearing this after a divorce can actually be quite uplifting. It’s a reminder that there are new opportunities ahead and that embracing life’s changes can lead to positive outcomes. This supportive message highlights the potential for growth and happiness after a challenging time.

“Do You Want To Talk About It”

Some kind people even offer to listen and provide a shoulder to lean on after your divorce. Having someone to talk to can be incredibly valuable as you process your feelings and thoughts. It’s nice to know someone genuinely cares and is there for you in these challenging times.

“I Know Someone Who’s Divorced Too”

People might try to connect you with others who’ve been through a divorce, hoping it will help. This can be both comforting and a bit much at times. See these connections as a potential support network. It’s reassuring to know you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing.

“Are You Going To Start Dating Again?”

When people start asking about your dating life, it can feel a bit rushed and overwhelming. Take your time and go at your own pace. There’s absolutely no hurry to jump back into a relationship. Focus on healing and finding yourself first and then figure out what do you want to do next.

“You Look Happier Now”

After a divorce, some friends or family might notice that you seem more positive or joyful. Hearing that you look happier can be really comforting, reassuring you that you made the right choice for your own well-being. It’s a simple reminder that life after divorce can bring a sense of peace and a fresh start.

“I Hope It Was Mutual And That You Both Find Happiness”

In the end, you’ll be surprised at how few people give you this response. While most people around you are trying to figure out how to support you or get busy choosing sides, some kind-hearted folks will wish you the best and hope it goes great for both of you because not all divorces involve an evil spouse.