From Diapers to Date Nights: 12 Tips to Keep the Romance After Your Baby is Born
Keeping the romance alive after your baby is born is not easy. After changing diapers all day and breastfeeding all night, you usually don’t have the energy to date your partner. However, keeping the spark alive is crucial. Here are 12 tips to avoid falling out of love with your partner after your baby is born.
Don’t Stop Dating
We often think of dating as an activity that should only be carried out in the first phase of a relationship, but this is not the case. Dating is what keeps your love alive. It’s that moment of the week you dedicate to nourish your relationship. Of course, it’s hard to find the energy to go out after a child is born, but put an effort into it. Once you’re in a lovely café with a good cup of coffee, laughing with your partner, you’ll be glad you made the effort.
Plan a Weekend Trip
Nothing is better than a weekend getaway to recharge. Your options are endless. If you love nature, you can take a hiking trip or enjoy a glamping experience in a breathtaking national park. Alternatively, you can relax with a day at the spa or a little trip to a picturesque town near the sea.
Try New Things
Trying new things can help you and your partner create new memories. For instance, you can start taking dance classes or try a new sport together. What about tennis, cycling, or boxing? If there’s a skill you always wanted to learn but never had the time to do so, this could be your sign to do it. Take cooking classes, attend a photography course, or learn a new language together.
You Deserve It
When a new baby is born, parents often feel obligated to be with him 24/7 and devote their entire lives to his well-being. While this is natural, realizing that you deserve peace of mind and happiness is crucial to being a good parent. So, stop feeling guilty about going out to have fun with your partner.
Prioritize Your Partner
New parents often think they must prioritize their children, but putting their partner first benefits their family. Never forget that your relationship with your partner is the foundation upon which everything else is built. Putting your partner first will help your kids be more independent while providing them with a healthy environment to thrive.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help
Raising a kid takes work, which is why it is essential to ask for help. Don’t hesitate to call your parents to check whether they can babysit your child for a night or an afternoon. If this is not an option, you can always ask a colleague or friend, promising to do the same for them soon.
Don’t Let Go of Intimacy
Parents often feel too exhausted for intimacy when a new kid is born. However, intimacy is a fundamental part of your relationship, and keeping it alive has plenty of benefits. Little acts such as holding each other’s hands, cuddling on the couch while watching a movie, or sending a flirty text can make a big difference.
Communicate Your Needs
Often, parents build resentment toward each other due to a lack of proper communication. Always remember that what may be obvious to you may not be evident to your partner. For instance, if you want them to take the trash outside, don’t wait for them to do so—tell them to do so. Always communicate your needs and expectations, and don’t let irritation build up over time.
Don’t Give Each Other for Granted
After years together, it’s easy to take each other for granted. When was the last time you told your partner you loved them? Or the last time you said ‘thank you’? It’s time to change this! Today, do something to let your partner know you’re grateful for all his help. Buy flowers, leave a thank you note, or simply tell them so.
Give Each Other Space
It may seem contradictory initially, but spending time apart can benefit your relationship. It’s fundamental for both of you to develop a self-identity outside your role as partners and parents. So, don’t be afraid to spend time on your own, nourishing your passions and dreams, and push your partner to do the same.
Keep It Simple
Keeping the spark alive can be simple. While weekend getaways and romantic date nights surely help, you won’t be able to devote time to these most days. Sometimes, a simple movie night in the comfort of your living room while the kids are asleep is all you need.
Laugh
When was the last time you laughed with your partner? Laughing can be a great way to keep the romance alive. If you and your partner love the same comedian, you can buy a ticket to one of his stand-up shows. Alternatively, you can watch a movie you both love or just be cheeky and flirty around each other.
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Remember to plan that weekend getaway together. Quality time is critical for keeping the spark alive, especially after kids. Whether you want to opt for a day at the spa or a simple afternoon at the beach, keep prioritizing each other.
This article was first published on the RB ITALIA Blog.