16 Unexpected Truths About Love People Don’t Often Share
When we think of love, we usually imagine the happy moments—the butterflies when you see someone you like, the joy of being back together after some time apart, or laughing so hard with someone special. But love isn’t always easy or perfect; it has its difficult sides too. Here are 16 truths about love that we don’t always think about but are important to know.
People You Love The Most Have The Power To Hurt You The Most
The opposite of love is not hate, as we are often told. It’s indifference. This means the people you love the most have a massive power over your emotions. Unfortunately, they can not only make you feel your very best but also your very worst. Nobody can hurt you as badly as the ones you love.
Love Is Not Synonymous With Happiness
As we discussed above, love is not always synonymous with happiness. Unreciprocated love, betrayal, and abusive behaviors are just some examples of how these feelings can harm you. Unfortunately, love is blind, meaning that we often ignore our partner’s red flags even though they still influence our well-being.
The First Phase Is Bound To Fade Away
Do you know the first phase of a relationship? When you can’t stop thinking about your partner? When you go around with a massive smile on your face and see the world with pink glasses? We are sorry to ruin the picture, but that phase is bound to fail.
Almost 50% Of People In Monogamous Relationships End Up Cheating
Have you ever suspected your partner cheated on you? Chances are, he probably did. Not by chance, slightly less than 50% of people in monogamous relationships declared cheating on their partner. This data comes from a poll involving over 440 participants.
Most Marriages Ends In Divorce
We all know divorces are becoming more common, but are you aware that the percentage is close to about 50%? Unfortunately, this statistic only applies to first marriages. Second and third marriages fail at a much higher rate. Seeing the divorce rate, it’s unreal to think that all marriages must last forever.
Love Won’t Fix You
If you’re looking for love to fix your life, stop it right now. Finding someone who loves you may make you feel happier for a certain period, but it won’t resolve all your issues immediately. Work on yourself first and ensure you’re happy without a partner if you want a successful relationship.
You Can’t Fix Your Partner
We often fall in love with people we think we can ‘fix.’ Whether it’s an addiction, emotional immaturity, or the inability to communicate properly, we often lie to ourselves, saying we will be able to help our partner become a better person. The truth? You cannot help someone who doesn’t want to change.
Love Is Not Enough
How many times have you heard that once love is there, you can face everything? Surely, it sounds lovely, but is this true? Unfortunately, not. If the only thing you have in common with your partner is your love for each other, the relationship won’t go far, as you also need to have common goals. Do you both want to have children? Do you want to live in the same country?
You Can Never Avoid Jealousy, No Matter How Much You Love Each Other
Even the best relationships get hit with jealousy. It’s a natural feeling that comes from insecurities and misunderstandings. Dealing with it can be tough, and sometimes, talking about it doesn’t seem to help. Trust and communication are important, but they don’t always make those feelings go away, and it can put a strain on your relationship.
Your Love Relationship Affects Your Kids
Unfortunately, a bad relationship also has repercussions on your kids. The way you communicate with your partner directly affects your children, who will learn from the interaction between you two how to deal with emotions. If you tend to shout at each other at every disagreement, that is exactly what your kids will do.
Divorce Is Extremely Pricy
Not only are divorces common, but they are also expensive. In the USA, they can cost a couple an average of $7.000! This means that spouses deciding to separate not only have to deal with the stress of changing house and habits, but they also need to face a massive financial expense.
7.3% Of Marriages End In Divorce Due To Addiction
Roughly 7.3% of weddings end due to addiction. Dealing with a partner suffering from addiction is extremely difficult, as providing help can be a real challenge. More often than not, your partner will have to see some experts to manage his addiction, something which can be incredibly difficult.
You Need To Love Yourself To Be Loved
To receive love from others, you should first be able to love yourself. Nobody will ever get an interest in you if you don’t value, respect, and care about yourself. On top of this, someone loving you doesn’t necessarily imply you will suddenly be able to love yourself.
Love Can Be Addictive
Love is probably one of the most powerful addictions on the planet. This means that for some, it may be physically and emotionally harmful to leave their partners, even for relatively short periods. While not all people are clingy, and some can be extremely independent even when in relationships, the addictive nature of love can’t be denied.
Love Can Blind You
We always hear that love is blind, but we rarely say that love can blind you. But what does this even mean? When we truly love someone, we often ignore their red flags. For instance, our partner may be extremely emotionally or physically abusive, but—even though deep down inside we are aware of it —we may ignore the issue, crafting excuses and lies to pretend everything is fine.
Not Everyone Loves the Same Way
Not everyone shows love in the same way. Some people express it through words, while others might show it by doing things for you. It’s important to understand how your partner shows love so you can both feel appreciated and avoid any confusion. Recognizing each other’s love language helps keep the relationship strong and connected.
More For You
You probably get it by now. Love has a dark side, and we must deal with it sooner or later. However, you may be one of the lucky ones enjoying a healthy and fulfilling relationship. If this is the case, it’s time to celebrate with a dinner out!
This article was first published on the RB ITALIA Blog.
