12 Simple Changes To Work On Yourself For A More Confident You

We’re just a few weeks from the upcoming year, which means it’s time we address the ‘New Year, New Me’ goals. While we’ll all have different goals, if there’s one we all have in common, it’s being confident. And even though it’s certainly a challenging goal, we’ve come up with some simple changes to work on yourself. With just these few small changes, you’ll become confident in no time:

Dress To Impress Yourself

We’ve all heard of the ‘dress to impress,’ but it’s mostly catered to others. Gone are the days when you’d dress up to please others, especially when most don’t appreciate it. Pick the style you want, get the hairdo in which you want to be seen, and go with a wardrobe that reflects you. You’ll soon feel confident and happy.

Set Personal Affirmations

Positive self-affirmations are a great way to rewire your brain and change your perspective. You might think talking to yourself isn’t a great tip for confidence, but it works wonders because you encourage yourself and gain motivation to take on challenges. Just reaffirming your strength, skills, and compassion is enough to make you feel confident.

Learn To Say No

Isn’t it time we all set some boundaries, especially when we’re strong-armed into doing things we don’t want? Saying no might not be the most straightforward task, and it’s undoubtedly attached to a lot of disdain from people you know, but once you get the habit of saying no to things you don’t want, you’ll find yourself much happier and more confident.

Try Something New Every Month

Most of the time, fear of not liking something or being bad at it prevents us from experiencing new things, directly affecting our confidence. The best way to stay confident and ensure you’re picking the right hobbies to occupy yourself is to try something new every month. You’ll have four weeks for each hobby; enough time to figure out whether it suits you and more than enough to build confidence.

Keep Promises To Yourself

It’s easy to let go of promises we’ve made to ourselves, especially when we’re engulfed by life. But it’s important you stick to what you claim, even if it’s something for yourself. Keeping promises you made, like hoping you’ll become more punctual or promising you’ll never put yourself in a bad spot, will eventually make you confident enough to leave a toxic situation.

Be Gracious About Compliments

Not everyone is great at receiving compliments because they feel they don’t deserve them, but that’s not true. We all deserve praise, whether for our appearance, efforts, or hard work. Sure, it might sound a bit cocky to be gracious, but accepting compliments is realizing that you’ve made it, so it’s one step closer to the confidence finish line.

Track Small Wins

Society makes us think we can only celebrate big wins like a house purchase or a big promotion, but that’s not true; it’s okay to track and celebrate small wins, even if they’re something as menial as getting a new mattress. Tracking small wins makes us more gracious in our blessings and encourages us to continue until we reach the stars.

Write Down Your Strengths

It’s easy to lose sight of ourselves when memories of our mistakes and weaknesses surround us. But constantly dwelling on things that hold us back will only prevent us from seeking new and enriching opportunities. The only way to remind yourself of your strengths is to note them down daily so you don’t lose yourself to invisible opponents like hesitation and judgment.

Challenge Negative Thoughts

Past experiences and being surrounded by people who love to criticize cloud our perception of ourselves. We lose ourselves to negative thoughts and begin to feel like we don’t deserve success. Clearing negative thoughts is complex and takes time, but you’ll get there with the right motivation and encouragement. And once you do, life will be bliss.

Simplify Your Goals

Sometimes, setting complex goals can prevent us from accomplishing them. We don’t mean you should stop setting big goals altogether, but remember that several smaller goals lie in the way. For example, a house mortgage won’t be the first step; instead, you’ll need to set saving goals to get there. Simplify your goals, and you’ll find it’s much easier to work for them, which is also great for your confidence.

Practice Self-Compassion

Sometimes, life forces us to be hard on ourselves. But unless we move on from that self-doubt and self-distaste, we won’t be able to break barriers and insecurities. It might seem challenging and impossible to be kind to yourself, but remember, we’re all human and deserve second chances. Be compassionate, kind, and loving, and you’ll find the confidence for everything.

Take Yourself On Solo Dates

This is one unique tip, but once you feel comfortable enough to dine alone in public, you’ll feel comfortable enough to take on all sorts of challenges. You might not think this accounts as a change, but the longer you stick to group dates and hangouts, the more you’ll rely on others. Don’t hesitate to be alone, even if it’s just lunch, and you’ll find the real, confident you.