Couples Who Do These 12 Things Risk Losing Trust in Their Relationship
A relationship without trust doesn’t last long. If you and your partner are struggling to trust each other, you need to address it immediately. Otherwise, you risk breaking up with them. While building trust is complex and usually takes a long time, some behaviors can affect the progress. Here are some common behaviors and habits that contribute to the loss of trust in a relationship.
Hide Texts And Calls
People only hide texts and calls when they fear being exposed to something else. If you’re constantly taking your phone to another room when receiving calls and texts, you’re bound to create suspicion and ring some alarms in your partner’s head. Even if you’ve got nothing to hide, refraining from taking calls and texts in your partner’s presence is an unusual habit.
Lie About Money
Being honest about financial status is incredibly important when entering a romantic relationship. Financial transparency keeps you and your partner in the loop, preventing mistrust should issues arise. However, if you hide debts, loans, copayments, and other financial commitments from your partner, you’re leading them into a relationship that isn’t built on honesty.
Criticize In Front Of Family
While it’s never okay to criticize your partner’s behavior or actions, doing so in front of family and friends is even worse. Criticizing your partner publicly puts them down and humiliates them. They won’t be able to move on from the shame and will question your intentions. It also paints them in a bad light, so they’ll lose trust in you and won’t feel safe in the relationship.
Keep Secret Bank Accounts
The best way to be on equal footing with your partner is to manage shared and separate finances with complete transparency. But if you’re secretly keeping a separate bank account and storing money there, you’re setting up your relationship for failure. Secret bank accounts usually fuel suspicious habits like addiction or affairs, so they’re never a good look, even if you aren’t indulging in such behaviors.
Avoid Accountability For Mistakes
Mistakes make us human, but accountability makes us humane. If you’re always making mistakes but never accepting fault and taking accountability, then you’re only going to foster resentment and frustration. You’ll drive your partner away with such antics because they’ll never be able to trust someone who can’t take accountability for their actions.
Spend Excessive Time With Exes
We’re not saying that exes can’t be cordial post-breakup, but you should never encourage interactions that could turn into a relationship or something more later. If you’re spending too much time with your ex, even if it’s for the sake of a shared asset, a pet, or a child, you’ll create doubt and suspicion in your current partner. Keeping your partner in the loop and setting boundaries with your ex are essential to avoid any issues.
Invalidate Their Feelings
We trust our partners and expect them to validate our feelings, no matter how crazy they might seem to others. But if your partner constantly invalidates your feelings, you’ll begin to feel numb and unwanted and eventually emotionally check out of the relationship. Valuing your partner’s feelings and emotions is essential to encourage support and love.
Fail To Follow Through On Promises
Failing to follow through on your promises is going to break your partner’s heart. You might think we’re being a bit dramatic, but people expect their partners to follow through on every promise, no matter how small. Whether it’s promising them a cup of coffee or something much larger and significant, you must keep your promise, lest you break your partner’s trust.
Use Social Media To Vent
Airing your dirty laundry is never a good move, but it is worse when your partner trusts you to keep things under wraps. You might think you’re venting your frustration and seeking guidance from your followers, but putting your relationship and its intimate details on social media eradicates any privacy from it. Your partner is going to hate being in the spotlight and will be broken-hearted.
Refuse To Share Passwords Or Access
Hear us out: sharing passwords and giving open access to your accounts should never be the crux or requirement of a relationship. However, if your partner asks you or requires you due to some suspicion, immediately going with a no will make them suspect you even more. It’s better to acknowledge their request, share access, and communicate how it feels to share your passwords.
Flirt With Others
This one is obvious, but flirting with others is a big no-no in a relationship. You might not even think you’re flirting, but being too generous or kinder than you should, especially to someone who might have a thing for you, is indirectly encouraging them and their feelings. Always discuss such things with your partner so you aren’t fighting over giving out the wrong impression.
Refuse To Apologize When Wrong
Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone accepts when they’re wrong. We admit that accepting you’re in the wrong is never easy, but it’s the right thing. If you’re adamant about your actions and refuse to apologize even when you know you’re in the wrong, you break your partner’s trust and make them feel invalidated and insecure.
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Every couple experiences highs and lows. It’s never a happy tale. But the most important thing is to patch up before things get worse. If you and your partner have been feeling distant lately, watch out for these stress factors before it’s too late.
This article was first published at Rbitaliablog.
